Improving Pleasure with the Use of Play in Psychosexual Therapy
Sex is often perceived as a high-pressure activity. Many people feel weighed down by expectations of “performing well,” which can create anxiety and even take away from intimacy. When therapy enters the picture the seriousness can intensify. With homework, readings, and weekly check-ins, sex may begin to feel more like schoolwork than a source of connection and joy.
This is where Play comes in…
Pleasure After Parenthood: Reclaiming Intimacy in a Changing Body and Life
Becoming a parent can profoundly change the way we experience our bodies, our relationships, and our sense of pleasure. Maybe sex has started to feel different (or disappeared entirely), maybe you feel touched out, or maybe you miss feeling connected in the way you used to.
If that sounds familiar, you're not alone. And more importantly: you're not broken.
Think of this as a gentle guide back to your pleasure, on your terms.
A Common Tale: Understanding Responsive Desire
Have you ever found yourself thinking, “Wow, that was great—why don’t I do that more often?” after sex… only to roll your eyes at the idea the next time it crosses your mind?
If so, you’re not alone.
In this blog post, I explore what is meant by the term ‘responsive desire’ and how we can use this to improve our sexual wellbeing.
Adolescence: How the Manosphere is Warping the Sex Lives of a Generation
The new Netflix series Adolescence is just a drop in the ocean compared to the deep and growing influence of the manosphere on young people’s lives. While the show has sparked conversation around sexism in schools, knife crime, and parental responsibility, as a sexologist and sex educator, I want to focus on how this online world, now more exposed than ever, is shaping a generation’s understanding of sex, relationships, and consent.
My Letter to Bonnie Blue and Lily Philips
As women, feminists, and human beings, we owe it to one another to reflect deeply on the impact our actions and online presence have on society.
If you truly believed in creating a sex-positive porn industry and society as you say you do, I belive that you would be concerned regarding the messages you share.
I understand that controversy pays the bills and clickbate is key for creators
Whether you acknowledge it or not, you are educators to your audience, particularly to young, impressionable viewers. Your choices shape not only their understanding of sex but also the societal norms they perpetuate.
As a sex educator, I see the fallout from this misinformation daily.
Featured: OnlyFans, porn, and the fall in teen condom use
BBC article
Could the influence of pornography, OnlyFans and so-called "natural family planning" techniques explain the drop in teenagers' use of condoms?
How can we have more 'Feminist Sex'?
Feminist movements have reshaped our world, yet in our sex lives, patriarchal conditioning still holds strong. Instead of enjoying our desires freely, we often worry about body image and meeting others' expectations. Feminist sex is about breaking these pressures, finding joy in our bodies, and experiencing sex as an expression of our true desires—not those imposed on us